How often have you held back from speaking up, in case you are judged or ridiculed?
How did it feel to hold those comments inside and not express yourself?
I used to fear that I wouldn’t be ‘liked’ if I spoke up!
This led to feelings of resentment and not being valued. I was screaming inside because I knew what I had to say was relevant and valuable.
What I’ve learned is that not everyone is ready to hear my point of view. It’s not that they don’t value my opinion, or don’t like me, it’s just that the timing is not quite right.
When I came to accept this, I noticed that my resentment lessened and by not jumping in straight away, I am able to judge the situation better and speak from a place that I feel people want to hear what I have to say.
This can be a pattern from childhood where we were shut down and told to be quiet.
Breaking patterns that have become unconscious can take some finding and changing.
If this resonates with you, please contact me. I‘d love to hear your experiences.
Isobel x